Friday, February 14, 2014

Love U's

I'm writing this on a day that supposedly is meant to celebrate love, Valentines Day.  But I am under the impression that celebrating love should be held onto and done every minute of every day all year round. This day to me simply enforces the fact that I am single. It is a day, in fact, that I think can pose some challenges for many individuals.
Love, and even being in love, should not only be measured by romance, but also by family and friends. Anyone that congregates around the heart and within the soul should qualify for the category of love. Plus, being single is not something that bothers me. It doesn't even bother me a whole lot to be single on this day; I just don't need the reminder and to be made to feel that love only means something when you are romantically involved. And we all deserve love... in some form.

To me, love has never been a fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants kind of thing. I don't give away love easily because I see love as a four letter word that is incomparable. It also comes, in my opinion, in a few different, and special ways.

Unconditional: Accepting someone for who they are, the ways in which they change, their past, their ambitions. Without acceptance there is no love. Love is meant to be unconditional, only to know that "unconditional" can change the moment love is broken.
Understanding: There is no exact knowledge to love, making sense of it is pointless. Just know that the key to love is having an open mind, heart and soul. If closed, do not expect love to knock.
Universal: There is no limit or maximum capacity for love. Boundaries may keep us physically stationed to one location but the feelings in ones heart can move through walls, time, and space
Unrequited: Nietzsche considered " the lover is his unrequited love, which he would at no price relinquish for a state of indifference." It can hit when not even expected and become very meaningful and important; life's a stage and you cannot always predict what you feel.
Unknown: It is impossible to really define love or even "being" in love. It is hard to capture and sometimes even hidden in plain sight.

All of these love U's are linked together in some ways, but stand on their own in others.

Love U and happy Valentines day, every day, to no one specific but someone special.


  1. I know I am waay too late with a comment on this blog post. But you are nonetheless so, so right in everything you've described, Mark.

    One of the lines that especially captured my attention is " life's a stage and you cannot always predict what you feel" -- one can never predict what they'll feel, actually. I've just recently re-learnt this myself.

    1. Thanks for the comment Estrella, it is never too late to share your words. "Life's a stage", just like your aptly titled blog/website.